Do Not Play Wedding Music List
By Anna Lynn Sibal
Everything about a wedding has to be romantic, and couples spend huge amounts of time pouring over details of their wedding ceremony and wedding party just so they have got everything down pat to their own notion of what is romantic. The music for the wedding ceremony and the dances is just among these details that engaged couples carefully attend to.
After all, whatever music is played at the wedding ceremony and the wedding party can make or break the prevailing mood and atmosphere of the event. It takes a good band or a good deejay to get the music swinging the way the bridal couple wants it to. This is why bridal couples find it important to hire a really good band or deejay to handle the repertoire for their wedding.
Any bridal couple should be aware, however, that no matter how carefully they instruct a deejay as to what to play and what not to play, there will be some songs that will subtly slip into the playlist that the bridal couple absolutely do not want to hear on their big day and just crash the mood of the wedding party. Think of Alexis Arquette’s character in the movie “The Wedding Singer,” who thinks it is perfectly all right to sing the Culture Club song “Do You Really Want to Hurt Me?” at a wedding.
In order to avoid any such mishaps during the wedding ceremony and the wedding party, it is important for the bridal couple to carefully stipulate what songs they want to be played on their wedding as well as what songs they do not want to be played. The latter is simply called the “Do Not Play” list. For best results, these two lists should be added to the contract the bridal couple gets to sign with the deejay or the band for their services.
It is easy to build the “Do Not Play” list. What songs are actually listed there depend on the tastes in music that the couple has. Generally, songs that land in any wedding party’s “Do Not Play” list are:
Cheesy dance songs. Dance songs like “Macarena,” “YMCA,” “Achy Breaky Heart” and the like are often in “Do Not Play” lists because, while they are indeed entertaining and get people strutting their stuff on the dance floor, songs like these are so tacky and inelegant that it might turn off the guests at the wedding and discourage them from actually dancing.
Heartbreak songs. It is a wedding after all, so why play songs about heartbreak and death when the event is about the celebration of love everlasting? It just does not make sense. Examples of such songs are Tony Braxton’s “Unbreak My Heart,” Celine Dion’s “My Heart Will Go On,” Billy Idol’s “White Wedding,” and Patti Page’s “Tennessee Waltz.”
Simply godawful songs. Any songs hated by any half of the bridal couple belong to this segment of the list. It could be any song particularly disliked by the bridal couple, depending on their tastes in music.